Pondering on Friendship

Friendship is a precious thing. 

Some friendships are fluid and like elastic, you bounce back together after not seeing each other for ages and nothing has changed it is like you were only together the day before. 

Other friendships need more work and change over time as you and your friend grow and change - some times one of you may grow and change so much that the friendship just doesn't survive. Other times your differences and changes just make it a different stronger friendship.

Bob Marley, when talking about friendship said, “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” 

My question is how do you know when a friendship is worth the fight and how long do you keep on fighting for that friendship.

My best friend is my hubs, has been for years, I tell him everything and have no secrets from him. He knows all my history and I know his and he has been a brilliant friend and husband, particularly over the last few years when life has been more challenging. 

Playing ball with the smallest child

I have other great friends, who I see as often as life lets us. Some I have known since infant school and before, others I have met as an adult. 

All of my friendships are different. Two of my oldest friends love to travel and as they are both teachers they have taken their skills overseas. One is currently heading out to Borneo for 3 years whilst the other is on her way to China. I shall miss them, but with the great technology we have these days I can still talk to them with out the exorbitant costs we once had. 

Some of my other friends are home bodies like me and I see them when I can but we live in different parts of the country and because of the fatigue from the drugs I take I am often too tired to travel. One lives in Wales by the seaside, I would love to go and see her house but it is a three hour drive and I am not sure how I would cope with the drive. 

Other friends I had, at college for example, I have drifted away from, although I have reconnected with some via the magic of social media, which is nice.

I wonder how other people hold onto the more challenging friendships, do you find time, see less of your kids, work less, rest less so you can spend time with them?

I worry about my friendships. I think I know my friends less and less as I see less of them, and I am guessing that is probably the case, but then other friends just know me and visa versa. Are some of my friends less my friend then? 

I am probably over thinking it but it's complicated and I wonder what others think?

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